I learnt this from living with a guy for the first time, that raised voices is toxic. I set my boundaries, such that if I’m not addressed respectfully and politely, I do not respond. I learnt a lot about myself, what I liked and what I could not tolerate and being in a close relationship.

I’m not a confrontational person. I find communicating in writing a good release for my pent up irritation. Writing gives me time to think through the situation and express myself constructively, without being rude.

Well done Jaleel & Nicole. Best wishes in your relationship and trip around the world. I’ve made it to fifty-seven countries, so far 😊. A hundred and seventy to go – ha ha!

Sadé Tolani☀️

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